Who Keeps the House If It Was Bought Before Marriage? What Nigerian Couples Should Know
Who owns property bought before marriage in Nigeria? It sounds like a straightforward legal question, but it can become one of the most emotional questions about marriage and moneywhen a relationship ends. Imagine a woman buys a house in Lagos several years before getting married. After the wedding, her husband moves in. It becomes their […]
Marriage and money: What should I do if I feel like my spouse is a mistake?
You look across the room at your spouse and a thought enters your mind that you almost feel guilty for having: Did I make a mistake? Maybe you’ve just had another disagreement about money. Maybe you’re tired of carrying responsibilities you thought would be shared. Perhaps you expected to own a home by now, have […]
How much should you earn before getting married?
You sit across from each other at your favourite coffee shop, the warmth of your mugs slowly fading as a heavy silence settles between you. Between the two of you lies a notebook filled with scribbled figures, apartment rental listings, monthly expenses, and the daunting math of building a future together. Your partner glances up […]
What financial questions should you ask before marriage?
It’s a quiet Sunday evening. Dinner is over, the dishes are stacked in the sink, and the two of you are sitting together talking about the future. Your partner is excitedly describing the home you hope to buy one day, the vacations you’ll take, and the life you’re working toward together. You can’t help but […]
How to handle costly cultural funerals without hurting your marriage
It often starts with a sudden, heartbreaking phone call that changes your family life right away. When an elderly family member or close relative dies, you and your spouse are still in shock, but there is little time to grieve. Suddenly, you have to focus on urgent planning. Family elders meet, and your household is […]
How Often Should Couples Argue? What’s Normal in a Healthy Marriage?
Someone once spent some time around my husband and me and then said, “You two don’t argue, do you? ”I laughed. Not because the question was strange, but because the answer was so obvious to me. Of course we argue. Apparently, we had just done a good job of keeping our arguments out of public […]
Can AI Tell Whether to Stay or Leave a Relationship.
A friend once asked me a question that made me laugh before it made me think. “Can I just put my relationship into AI and ask whether I should stay? She was tired. Not necessarily tired of the relationship, but tired of thinking about it. There had been good years, difficult months, apologies, disappointments, beautiful […]
Marriage and Money: The One Question That Can Strengthen Your Marriage Every Week.
There was a point in my marriage when I realized that loving someone and making them feel loved are not always the same thing. Nothing terrible had happened between us. We weren’t facing a major marriage crisis. We were just caught up in life. Work, bills, family plans, responsibilities, tired evenings, and all the little […]
How to Protect Your Marriage in a Short-Term Culture
BY ADETUTU AFOLABI Today’s fast-paced culture relentlessly encourages young professionals to prioritise immediate gratification over lasting substance. We are conditioned to crave quick success, rapid cash flow, instant digital validation, and superficial relationship aesthetics. Everything moves at an exhausting speed. However, a harsh economic reality remains: the strongest marriages and the healthiest financial futures are rarely […]
Marriage and Money: When One Wins, We All Win: Overcoming Income Differences in Marriage.
A silent but risky dynamic in contemporary relationships unfolds when structural financial imbalance is treated as a normal, harmless tradition. In many homes, one partner assumes total control of the finances while the other remains completely disconnected from daily money decisions. On the surface, it looks functional: one partner seamlessly pays the utility bills, manages […]