How to run a family financial meeting to stop money secrets
BY ADETUTU AFOLABI Every family has conversations, but not all of them really connect. This simple difference can decide whether a family stays financially close or faces instability. In many African homes today, parents discuss money in marriage only when a crisis arises. Couples often keep their concerns private until small issues become big arguments. Over time, this silence turns […]
Marriage and money: Raising heirs, not entitled children
BY ADETUTU AFOLABI Many parents dream about giving their children a better life. A good school. A safe home. More chances. Less hardship. That desire is natural. Especially for couples who know what financial hardship feels like, there’s often a deep emotional commitment to making sure their children never experience the same level of stress. But somewhere along […]
Marriage and Money: A will is Romantic too
BY ADETUTU AFOLABI Most couples spend months planning a wedding. They discuss outfits, venues, colours, themes, food, music, guest lists, photography, and honeymoon destinations. They invest energy in creating a beautiful beginning. But very few couples sit down and ask: “If something happens to one of us tomorrow, would the other person be protected?” It’s uncomfortable. […]
Marriage and money: Your convenience substitutions may destroy your foundation
There’s a new kind of survival happening inside modern relationships. People are no longer just tired from work. They are tired of carrying invisible emotional weight every single day. Tired of calculating bills before buying groceries. Tired of pretending everything is okay online while struggling privately at home. Tired of trying to protect their marriages […]
Navigating the joint account dilemma
Money and marriage are a delicate dance that can either strengthen or strain a relationship. Opening a joint bank account is the natural next step in building a shared future for many couples. But beneath this well-intentioned decision lies a common challenge: aligning financial habits and values. Take the story of a couple who, three years into marriage, […]
Defining financial roles
In any marriage, money isn’t just currency. It’s conversation, compromise, and, sometimes, conflict. Defining who handles what in a household is a delicate negotiation for many couples. It’s not always about who earns more or who’s “better with numbers,” but how two people with different habits and mindsets can co-create a sustainable financial rhythm. Many couples […]
How to overcome financial guilt
Every time she buys something just for herself, a piece of jewellery, a sweater, a designer bag, she feels it: that familiar knot in her stomach. Guilt. She hesitates before showing the receipt. It’s not secrecy but a quiet urge to apologise. Her partner shrugs it off, lovingly confused. “You deserve nice things,” he insists. […]
Building financial intelligence together
“The moment I realized I was in love, my next thought was money because love and money are five and six.” That was my honest-to-God thought. Not because I’m materialistic, but because I understood something many people overlook: lasting love isn’t just about butterflies and date nights. It’s about credit scores, budgets, and shared vision. […]
How financial stress impacts intimacy
Money fuels our lives, but love and empathy keep relationships running smoothly. Just like a car needs oil to function even with a full tank, a marriage needs emotional support and communication to survive financial bumps in the road. Across the globe, couples face a silent intruder in their relationships: financial stress. It creeps in […]