Postpartum intimacy: When Can You Start Having Sex Again After Giving Birth? A Guild for Couples
One of the most common questions running through a new mum’s mind is simply: “When can I actually start having sex again after giving birth?” The truth is, there is no magic calendar date. For many women, midwives and GPs recommend waiting until after the six-week postnatal check before having sex after giving birth. This […]
Will Not Knowing How to Cook Affect Your Chances of Marriage?
The short answer is no. Not being able to cook does not automatically mean you will miss out on your life partner or build an unhappy marriage. Cooking is a valuable life skill, but it is not a measure of your worth or the foundation of relationship compatibility. While some people value a partner who […]
How to Protect Your Marriage in a Short-Term Culture
BY ADETUTU AFOLABI Today’s fast-paced culture relentlessly encourages young professionals to prioritise immediate gratification over lasting substance. We are conditioned to crave quick success, rapid cash flow, instant digital validation, and superficial relationship aesthetics. Everything moves at an exhausting speed. However, a harsh economic reality remains: the strongest marriages and the healthiest financial futures are rarely […]
Marriage and Money: The Hidden Third Partner in Many African Marriages.The Family Bill
A few days ago, I had a Zoom call with a couple, both were looking emotionally exhausted, because they were dealing with deep relationship anxiety.Let’s call them Emeka and Chioma. Both have stable careers. They manage their household economics and budget together. They rarely argue about spending.Yet their marriage was under severe strain.Not because of […]
Marriage and Money: Is Financial Pressure Turning You Into a Survival Parent?
This is the rise of survival parenting: a growing reality in Nigerian and African households where mothers and fathers are so consumed by financial pressure, work fatigue, inflation, and daily survival that emotional presence is slowly disappearing from family life. Parenting has always required sacrifice. But today, many parents are not only sacrificing comfort. They […]
Marriage and Money: The Weekly Financial Meeting Every Couple Should Have
BY ADETUTU AFOLABI Every family has conversations, but not all of them really connect. This simple difference can decide whether a family stays financially close or faces instability. In many African homes today, parents discuss money in marriage only when a crisis arises. Couples often keep their concerns private until small issues become big arguments. Over time, this silence turns […]
Marriage and Money: Why Every Marriage Needs a Shared Mission
BY ADETUTU AFOLABI Many people enter marriage expecting companionship. Love. Support. Partnership. But the strongest marriages grow into something deeper than just romance. They become aligned. They connect not only emotionally but also financially, spiritually, and with shared purpose. In a time where many couples feel overwhelmed by survival, alignment matters more than ever. People today […]
Marriage and money: Raising heirs, not entitled children
BY ADETUTU AFOLABI Many parents dream about giving their children a better life. A good school. A safe home. More chances. Less hardship. That desire is natural. Especially for couples who know what financial hardship feels like, there’s often a deep emotional commitment to making sure their children never experience the same level of stress. But somewhere along […]
Marriage and Money: How Financial Pressure Is Changing Modern Marriages
In many Nigerian homes today, the loudest arguments are no longer really about love. They are about money. A husband comes home tired from traffic, fuel costs, work pressure, and the quiet fear that his salary is losing value before it even enters his account. His wife has spent the day stretching an impossible amount […]
Marriage and Money: Why Writing a Will Is One of the Most Romantic Things You Can Do
BY ADETUTU AFOLABI Most couples spend months planning a wedding. They discuss outfits, venues, colours, themes, food, music, guest lists, photography, and honeymoon destinations. They invest energy in creating a beautiful beginning. But very few couples sit down and ask: “If something happens to one of us tomorrow, would the other person be protected?” It’s uncomfortable. […]